Change

So I’m writing this today from my new office. As I was thinking about how much I liked this new change, it got me thinking about change in general. There’s that song by Sheryl Crow “A change would do you good” and I think that is pretty accurate.

All of us, whether we realize it or not, have some areas that we could make some changes to. Some of these changes could be major while others (and most) are minor. There’s a saying “A few minor changes can add up to a major change”. Some examples of changes people could make are:

Watching less TV
Spending more time with friends
Going out on more dates
Asking more people out
Investing a certain portion of your income
Having your husband or wife attend their first AA meeting
Attending your first AA meeting
Getting help or therapy you might need for past hurts
Exercising at least 3 days a week
Eating healthier
Spending more time outdoors
Reestablishing your connection with God/The Universe/Spirit
Meditating daily
Signing up for yoga classes
Getting your finances in order
Taking your dog for obedience school
Sleeping earlier
Changing jobs
Changing your profession

The list is pretty much endless with what you can do. The main thing is that you’re getting out there and making the changes you need for your life to improve.

Before making any outer changes, first make sure to make the necessary internal ones. For instance, let’s say you would like to stop smoking. A lot of people might decide on a conscious level, “Today I am going to quit!” and for a few days they might. For those few days their willpower could be really strong and they might not even touch a smoke. However, after a few days, their ingrained habits and beliefs would begin to take over and the next thing they know they’re sitting down for a light.

Now, what could they have done differently? Instead of using their will-power, they could have used their IMAGINATION. Remember this, Imagination > Will-power and I will explain why. As I’ve said in nearly every one of my previous talks, over 90% of what you do is subconscious. You drive to work the same way every day, put your pants on the same way every day, brush your teeth the same way every day, and so on. Now how do you go about retraining your subconscious? Through IMAGING! In the case of the smoker, instead of trying to use their will-power to consciously over-power the subconscious part of their brain, they could have spent a few minutes every day seeing themselves going through the day healthy and without a light. This constant visualization process would begin to retrain the subconscious part of their brain to create this new life for them. Your subconscious mind goes to work on creating whatever images you feed it so by focusing on the positive, in this case the person being healthy and smoke-free, their subconscious would go to work on making that a reality. The person doing the visualizing could include such things as them reaching for healthy snacks (whereas previously they would have been smoking), exercising at the gym, doing yoga, going for a walk-outdoors and so on. Through constant repetition these images would be translated to their subconscious which would then seek out ways to make this a reality.

By the way, there are some people who’s will is so strong that they could say “I’m done with smoking” and be done with it however most people are going to need a reeducation process. They literally need to retrain their brain to create the reality they would like for themselves.

Exercise:

Now here is your exercise. I want you to make a list of all the positive changes you would like to make in your life.

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(Your list can be as short or long as you like)

After making your list, I want you every morning for 30 days straight to visualize your changes as being complete. Make sure to visualize the end result as that is what you want to see manifested in your life. While visualizing, really feel the feelings as if it were happening right now. This will make two things happen: 1) the use of emotion associated with your images will cause them to be ingrained in your subconscious faster. And 2) by feeling the feelings as if your new reality were happening now, you are putting yourself into a vibrational state to attract it to you.

After you’re done visualizing I want you to begin taking some action steps to make these new changes a reality. Action steps could include:
Signing up for a gym membership
Reading a book on dating
Asking somebody out
Signing your kids up for karate
Signing yourself up for karate
Going for a walk outdoors
Bringing your wife flowers
Cooking something nice for your spouse
Calling your travel agent about your next vacation
Calling your accountant about your finances
Taking the dog to obedience school
Reconnecting with your old love

Once you get out there and start making positive changes to your life, you’ll find that new opportunities will begin to open up that you previously might have missed. As you’re now having your energy go out in a new positive, you’re going to be bringing more positive experiences into your life. So try it out! And let me know how it goes.